What was your first relationship like?

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Stranger36147

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Who could forget that? When you got your first boyfriend or girlfriend. Whether you stay with that person or not, they probably have a special place in your heart....unless the relationship turned out really bad or something.


So like the title of this thread says, what was your first relationship like? Where or how did you meet this person? How old were you? Are you still with this person? And if not, what did you learn or takeaway from the relationship....if anything? I asked the last question because I always hear people say relationships help you grow as a person, whether they work out or not.


I don't have my own story to share....because I've never been in a relationship. Maybe I'll get lucky one day and find someone. Or not. :p


And just to clarify....I'm not talking about those little kid "relationships" where you have a different boyfriend or girlfriend everyday or whatever. Let's count those out, if you don't mind. :p I mean your first serious relationship. When and how did that happen, if you don't mind sharing? :)
 
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Stranger36147

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Oh and one other question I wanted to ask.


How long did your first relationship last? Sorry, hope I'm not asking too many questions here. :p
 
CharliRenee

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My first serious relationship taught me that committed relationships should be entered into slowly.
 
Robertt

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My frist real relationship was when I was 20 I guess. we met, we kissed we stayed together for about 4 mths and we did many things we shouldn't have. we were both chrisitans but let the flesh dominate our lives.

I don't think I loved her. I had fallen in love 2 years earlier with someone else who didn't love me back.

Since then had many a girlfriend and 3 wives. only ever dated the one Christian girl.

I still trying to find Mrs Right. but I think I too old to attract anyone now.
 
Ellorah

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My first relationship I was 20. He was the brother of one of the girls at my dorm. It taught me to not rush into love and most of all listen to my parents instincts !
 
BruceWayne

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I went with my friend to church camp and met this girl. We started "dating" on the bus ride home after talking for 3 days. Later, we found out that our parents had been long time friends and had no idea. It lasted all of like a month. We're still friends on fb.
 
melita916

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I was 22. We met online via school interest because he was thinking about transferring, so he started chatting with a few people from campus. He then met us when he visited. He transferred that following fall. We started dating that spring. We were together for almost 5 yrs.
 
ArtsieSteph

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Oh man....my first relationship was a trip XD

His name was Jeremy and we called him J.B. I was 16 an d he was 18, a junior and and a senior in highschool. He was the friend of my best friend's older brother, and we just happened to be hanging out together. Often times we would flirt a little at my friend's house, but it would never really go past that.

One day we all went to a movie and randomly we got ditched by everyone until it was me and him. He then walked me home and we watched the sunset at the park by my house. I had my first kiss in front of the lake that was there. It was just the cutest, most adorable moment ever. He asked if I wanted to be his girlfriend, I said yes. He called me later that night and said he loved me and hung up.

"Wait what!?"

I kinda had to seriously pump the brakes there. Like seriously? You just met me like this year. I could tell even then that it was too much too soon, and I by no means loved him. And he didn't love me either obviously, he was just really infatuated. The relationship only lasted a week, I literally think other than hand holding we maybe kissed just that once.

Kind of anticlimactic but yeah. Still love the memory though.
 
Oncefallen

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Wait.......

You engaged in premarital interdigitation?? :eek::eek:
 
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He was about 5 I think and I was 6.

He asked me to be his girlfriend I said yes.
He asked me for a kiss, I said yuk!

End of relationship lol

What did I learn from it, im not into younger men!
 
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His and my parents were friends, and when we were both in high school, we started dating. I broke up with him because he seemed too emotionally distant, although we remained friends all these years. Today he is married to a man. I suppose that’s why he seemed distant. 🤔
 
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Miri

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AuntieAnt said:
His and my parents were friends, and when we were both in high school, we started dating. I broke up with him because he seemed too emotionally distant, although we remained friends all these years. Today he is married to a man. I suppose that’s why he seemed distant. 🤔
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Looks like you had a fortunate escape.
 
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LittleMermaid

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We went on a few dates. He took me to see the movie Up and forced a kiss on me. It was my first kiss and I felt violated to be honest. We went one a few more dates but he was a bad boy and I didn't want a bad boy.
Bad as in he did pot and raced his car on the highway. :eek:
 
blue_ladybug

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Horrendous.. absolutely horrendous.
 
Dino246

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My first relationship?

Awkward, cringeworthy, and eminently forgettable.
 
JesusLives

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Met Mike around 14 in High School and we dated off and on and broke up and got back together several times.... That should have been an indicator.

He asked me to marry him when I was 16 we got married when I was 17 and he was 18 with my guardians permission. We were married a little over 6 years. We were pretty much on the same page when we got married but at 17 and 18 we grew up in those 6 years and grew apart. We got divorced and I moved from Kentucky to Florida. Mike remarried pretty quick and moved to Wyoming with his new wife. Seems we moved about as far away from each other as we could get.

I called him on what would have been our 40th wedding anniversary had we stayed married and we had a nice chat. He apologized for the way he had treated me and I did the same as neither of us had done our best. I was glad I had made the call as he died two years later.

But Mike was my first true love and I have no regrets.
 
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AuntieAnt

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AuntieAnt said:
His and my parents were friends, and when we were both in high school, we started dating. I broke up with him because he seemed too emotionally distant, although we remained friends all these years. Today he is married to a man. I suppose that’s why he seemed distant. 🤔
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I forgot to post what I learned from my 1st relationship. Well, I learned not to try to change people. If it's not going to work out between you, if one or the other doesn't have what it takes to help grow the relationship, don't hold on - let the poor soul go free.

Funny how things change. Now I'm the one emotionally distant in a relationship. After a brutally failed first marriage and having to let him go, losing my 2nd husband to cancer, and surviving the heartbreak of a few other close-calls of marriage, I can't afford to get broken again. My heart thirsts for freedom and peace.

I'm not emotionally distant with family, friends, and even initially in a relationship. I give my whole heart and more to those I love. I hold nothing back. But if I see any red flags of a storm a'brewin' in a relationship, I'm gone. And I wouldn't doubt some of those red flags are all in my head like PTSD.

Anyhow, I told the Lord He'd have to get some extraordinary godly man to win my heart if I'm ever going to be in a relationship. Nothing is worth my heart going through another rock tumbler of heartache and taking my eyes off the Lord, Who's been the only One ever faithful to me. Bless His Holy Name! ♥
 
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