Exactly, that's where your error lies, in thinking that women can be independent. Women and men are quite different, more than you think, actually. Women always need a provider because it's in their biology. Women were created to be submissive & dependent to their men, otherwise just read the Genesis and you will find out that the woman was created by God in order to bring a helper to the man. The female biology is such and nobody will change that.
This is why women shouldn't be taught to be "independent". Insisting them on being such will only make them more unstable, selfish & confused about what they want. When you teach them to be "independent" you are literally asking them to not be women. You are asking them to be men without a penis.
It's intriguing to me that you have absolutely no concept of life experiences and that others might have gone through different things than you, but it is just as valid.
When I was 25 years old, I came home from a regular day at work, and half the house was gone. My husband had packed up and left without ever giving so much as a hint as to what he was planning, determined to pursue another girl.
At the time, I was the one who was keeping us financially stable. When he left, I suddenly had to pay for everything by myself, and I had no man to rescue me.
I have lived independently ever since, and it's been a very long time. Some say that Biblically I can't marry again -- I believe that I can, but just have not met the right person. This is what I'm talking about when teaching women to live independently. You can't bet your life on a man supporting you, and you have to learn how to live life on your own in case you find yourself with no one there.
My parents are watching some of the people around them go through the loss of a spouse, and the women left behind have no idea how to pay their bills, balance their checkbook, or support themselves (let alone children) because of your exact line of thinking. These women have been left helpless and literally homeless and starving because people who think like you, though well-meaning, taught them that ignorance and complete dependence should be their way of life.
You're saying the things that you are based on an assumption that you will always be healthy, always be able to hold a job that pays for everything, will never get sick, won't ever lose a job (have you not seen what the pandemic has done to most people's employment?), be in an accident, or even die before your wife does. That's a whole lot of presumption about how you think your life will go.
Who is going to care for your wife after you die, or do you expect to outlive her?
Like I keep saying, please, stay here with us. I really want to see if you are the exception to all of life's challenges and tragedies.
I know you are only hearing what you want to hear, so my replies are no longer to you.
Rather, I'm hoping that maybe there are people out there in the audience who will understand what I'm saying and that hopefully, it will spare them needless grief.