The scriptures say women are to remain silent.
Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.
#1 they are not allowed to speak . . .as the law says. Are we under such a law?
#2 don't disrupt the church service with your questions but ask your husband when you get home.
There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. . . .v4 speaking of gifts.
v7 the manifestations of the gift. . . .Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good.
I don't see to each one except women? Who is the "each one"? Each born again believer born again by God's Spirit and has been given the gift of holy spirit. v11 All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines. . .For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body--whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free -- and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. But in fact God has placed the parts of the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. . .As it is, there are many parts, but one body. 1 Corinthians 12
So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave or free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:28
I agree that some of the manifestations of the Spirit have been mishandled and some have through these distortions, given the manifestation of the Spirit a reputation of being senseless, and mindless, making a mockery of the gift of holy spirit and the manifestations of that gift.