Frankly, me, not being perfect and all, and me, fighting hard to walk with God and follow where he takes me, but failing oh so often, I simply do not find myself qualified enough in the "I'm holy" sphere of life, to tell others what they should or shouldn't do in my presence.
What? Like suddenly I'm a shining example of all things that ought to proceed out of the mouths of Man? I'm so unshiny, I'm not even sure someone can make out what's under the tarnish. I'm not sure even I can make it out.
So, just because something bothers me, I never think it's my duty to tell someone else not to do it around me. If I can't deal, I walk away. (Ex drug addict and still trying to quit a smoking addiction, so I have and will walk away, if need be.) I've got plenty to fix about myself first. And, because I have plenty to fix about myself, I really don't have the time or desire to tell others how to act around me.
To me, this is sort of like gossip. Gossip is my sin area, so I cannot partake of it. I let people know that about me, whenever it fits into the conversation. On a rare occasion, it fits in before it comes up. (Like now, for instance.) But it usually comes up when someone starts gossiping, and I get that deer-in-the-headlights reaction, so I blurt it out then. At least they aren't feeling like I'm superior to them, because it's MY problem, not theirs. If they realize it is their problem to, it's up to them to decide if they want to deal with it now or sometime in the future. I don't even bother finding out what their thinking, because the only thing I gave them is what my problem is.
In like kind. This is not anyone else's problem but yours. If you have problems with this, let people know what your problem is. If it's them, you're wrong. It's not them. It's your problem. I'm very much aware that I do have a problem with taking the Lord's name in vain. The only thing that you have given me is IF I can pull it off, I might well start saying, "Hare H. Krishna" in the future. But what I do with MY problem in sinning in this area, is NOT YOUR problem. You not accepting fellow sinners IS your problem.