As An "Older" Single, What Advice Would You Give to Younger Singles?

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VincentG

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Actually, you are both pretty nice. Feisty is a good quality to have. Keeps you on your toes. Yep, you do have a big heart too. :)
ok here we go with the words again what does feisty mean..huh?
 

Jewel5712

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ok here we go with the words again what does feisty mean..huh?
..my dad used to say "bullheaded" like stubborn but google it cause its a mixture..lol. Btw..i think he only said tgat cause he liked fishing..lol

feist·y
ˈfīstē/Submit
adjectiveinformal
(of a person, typically one who is relatively small or weak) lively, determined, and courageous.

"a feisty heroine who's more than a pretty face"
synonyms: spirited, spunky, plucky, gutsy, gutty, ballsy
"the part of Annie called for a just-so balance of adorable and feisty"
 

VincentG

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..my dad used to say "bullheaded" like stubborn but google it cause its a mixture..lol. Btw..i think he only said tgat cause he liked fishing..lol

feist·y
ˈfīstē/Submit
adjectiveinformal
(of a person, typically one who is relatively small or weak) lively, determined, and courageous.

"a feisty heroine who's more than a pretty face"
synonyms: spirited, spunky, plucky, gutsy, gutty, ballsy
"the part of Annie called for a just-so balance of adorable and feisty"
ohh ok like pretty face?
 
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I confess when I turned 30, I got depressed because I believed I was never going to marry, and so, never have children.

But the Lord helped me through all that! And now, I honestly don’t have a desire to have kids. If God wants us to have kids, so be it lol.
If you don’t mind me asking...how did you and your husband meet? Sorry I am a hopeless romantic, and I love hearing the stories of how married people found each other.
 

melita916

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If you don’t mind me asking...how did you and your husband meet? Sorry I am a hopeless romantic, and I love hearing the stories of how married people found each other.
Actually, I met his mama on CC! She’s the one who encouraged us to talk. After a month of suggesting it, he and I finally agreed to email. From there it went to texting, and then to phone calls. 5 months after initial email, we met in person. I also met his mama, too :)
 
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Actually, I met his mama on CC! She’s the one who encouraged us to talk. After a month of suggesting it, he and I finally agreed to email. From there it went to texting, and then to phone calls. 5 months after initial email, we met in person. I also met his mama, too :)
Wow your story is even more adorable than I could have ever imagined!!!! Congratulations!!! Awwww!!
 

TamLynn

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HiUOTE="Miri, post: 3688129, member: 132947"]I would say women are like fine wine, they improve with age.
With age comes more knowledge, a better idea of who you are
and want you want, hopefully too a better walk with God.

Hopefully the same applies to men too, but as I’m a woman I can only
give a woman’s perspective on that.

Young women just want to be loved and someone to take care of them,
a substitute dad.

Older woman want to give as much back as they receive, they look
for a spouse to share life with, not just a care taker.

As for comments about being past it at 27. What a load of........insert an
appropriate word.

I’ve just turned 50! Picture of me a few weeks before my birthday

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Anyway to younger singles, I would say learn to love God and learn to
love who you are. So many people have hang ups because they hate who
they are. How can you expect someone to love and respect you if you don’t
have any love and respect for yourself.

Also don’t sell yourself short and don’t lower your standards just to
get hitched quickly. Keep your eyes on God and use your time for His
work.

I’ve been involved in so many things for God, have met many amazing
people along the way and have had great opportunities which I might
not have had time for as a married person.

Things like going on children’s camps for 10 years,
helping with Sunday school and teen clubs. In that sense I hope
I have lots of children! Travelling all over the place along the way
and I have lots of wonderful memories.

Learning to play various musical instruments, playing sax on the
worship team for 10 years, which gave opportunities to play with
and meet some famous Christian musicians.

I’ve been Privileged to do some paid for work and voluntary with a couple of Christian
charities, plus much more.

Now I look after my elderly aunt. It’s hard work
but she is a Christian too and loved by God and me. It’s a privilege to
do so and God had given me this awesome responsibility so He must
believe in me and that I can do it.

I’m not blowing my own trumpet besides I never learnt the trumpet!
But what I’m trying to say is being single doesn’t mean there is no life.
Being single gives you time to get involved in and do all those things
married people always say they wish they had time for.

Being single doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. Being married doesnt
mean you will always be happy. Life is what you make it regardless of
being single or married.[/QUOTE]

:)
 

TamLynn

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This was a entertaining thread to read through as I enjoyed the first coffee of my day! Lots of great advice and some good laughs.
Many thanks to all the contributors!!
:)
 

CharliRenee

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If you are a woman,, if you can,, seek to be married by your 27th year..

If you are a man.. watch out and be wary.. Your choice of a woman to be your wife is critical to your long term happiness.. Try to find a more traditional Christian woman who will stand by you through good and bad times, because in western nations, that have No Fault divorce laws and legal systems that are totally biased against men you can quickly find yourself without a wife and with a court enforced order barring you from contact with your kids and your home gone and your salary reduced to poverty levels because your money is automatically being taken for alimony and child support..

Marriage has become a minefield for young western men.. So beware..
Aweeee sounds a wee harsh, hope you are just a wee skewed. Well, I don't want you holding on to hurt or resentment, but I do hape your assessment isn't as founded as you perceive it to be. God Bless you, brother.
 

CharliRenee

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Sadly, this is true but you don't have to get married to have sex.
Truer words were never spoken. Wait my response was intended for your comment about what most men are looking for not this, lol. One as a Christian can not, lol.
 

Mel85

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Where is AuntieAnt? Miss her.