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TabinRivCA

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Dare I go back and read all the previous replies here?
Go ahead, just have some aspirin and a fan at hand, then proceed w/caution!!!😂
The dare is to not get derailed from the OP. Have fun.
 
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I'm married, but I have single Christian friends who are looking for spouses, and I know it's tough..
It sure is, i've tried dating websites in the past and it seems all the nice girls and women are happily married, and all that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
 

seekingthemindofChrist

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Well, seeing how there has been so much disharmony here, I thought that I would take a moment to make an observation which we can all agree on...

I am officially out of the dating pool.

lol.
 

seoulsearch

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... All that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
Don't feel too bad.

In the meantime, most of the single girls I know are single because they can't find a Christian guy they have romantic chemistry with who isn't a slave to porn.
 

TabinRivCA

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It sure is, i've tried dating websites in the past and it seems all the nice girls and women are happily married, and all that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
...and I know 2 couples who met each other on Christian Mingles, one couple is married and the other couple engaged. If you label everyone with negative projections you won't get anywhere or maybe don't really want to.
 

Gojira

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That's genuinely interesting. Let me ask you, how often are you in asking a lady (on the dating sites) to meet up with you for a coffee, sat/sun lunch, to go with you to event you think they'd be interested in (like a play, bowling, painting date, live jazz, walk in the park, etc, if their profile says they enjoy those things?
Never.

Why, you ask?

Because my first attempts to reach out are never responded to. Correction... I believe twice in all that time they were. One girl poofed on me after my second response, and the other, a platonic meetup, literally forgot I existed within two months. So, those sites and the women on them can stick it.
 

seoulsearch

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It sure is, i've tried dating websites in the past and it seems all the nice girls and women are happily married, and all that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
I'm divorced -- he left for his girlfriend and moved out without telling me while I was at work.

Am I an airhead?

*Smile*

I suppose that could be fiercely debated.

Anything techie, forget it, I have my techie friends on speed dial. 😂

As far as other areas of life, well, I guess you'd have to ask the people who know me. 🙂
 

presidente

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It sure is, i've tried dating websites in the past and it seems all the nice girls and women are happily married, and all that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
Do they let users sort by criteria-- exclude divorcees, for example? I would imagine the girls don't click the 'yes' button when asked if they are airheads.
 

Sculpt

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Don't feel too bad.

In the meantime, most of the single girls I know are single because they can't find a Christian guy they have romantic chemistry with who isn't a slave to porn.
So, the guys they do have romantic chemistry with are only the guys who are a slave to porn?

In other words, the guys that are a slave to porn are the only guys that give the single girls some romantic chemistry? It sounds like a Catch 22 lol. Do you think there's a problem on both sides?
 

Sculpt

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Never.

Why, you ask?

Because my first attempts to reach out are never responded to. Correction... I believe twice in all that time they were. One girl poofed on me after my second response, and the other, a platonic meetup, literally forgot I existed within two months. So, those sites and the women on them can stick it.
Never? Well, to state the obvious, you aren't gonna get results unless you ask a lot of ladies to meet up with you. To specify, not reach out to them; I mean ask to meet.

When I was on the dating sites, I went out with a lot of ladies. I learned through trial and error how to do it. You can waste time exchanging messages, or you can point blank ask them to meet you a specific day/time/place. (All first meetings are plutonic.) Sat/Sun coffee, either of you can leave at any time. Casual.

Most people on the site are there to date. But there are some who are already dating someone, or are simply going to be busy that day. Never assume why, just move on.

Some just want a fantasy pen pal... that's why you just ask them to meet you. If they can't that date/time, you can ask a second time if you think their worth it, but if they decline and don't make an alternative suggestion, just move on. You can exchange a few messages if it matters to them, but if she lives near you, you need to keep asking out other ladies in the meantime.

It's either a simple short meetup for a coffee, sat/sun lunch, or (more so for second dates) it's about the activity you're doing together: you're both going together to event you think they'd be interested in (like a play, bowling, painting date, live jazz, walk in the park, etc, if their profile says they enjoy.)

You're a fun, funny, decent, nice-looking guy. There's lots of women who'd be interested in you. But it's a numbers game. You don't know which 5 of the 10 ladies you ask to meet you are going to be the 5 that say yes, or the 2-3 that want a second date, or that you want a second date with. So, you have to ask the 10. And repeat. It's just the logistical reality, there's no point in being cross about it.
 

Gojira

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Never? Well, to state the obvious, you aren't gonna get results unless you ask a lot of ladies to meet up with you. To specify, not reach out to them; I mean ask to meet.

When I was on the dating sites, I went out with a lot of ladies. I learned through trial and error how to do it. You can waste time exchanging messages, or you can point blank ask them to meet you a specific day/time/place. (All first meetings are plutonic.) Sat/Sun coffee, either of you can leave at any time. Casual.

Most people on the site are there to date. But there are some who are already dating someone, or are simply going to be busy that day. Never assume why, just move on.

Some just want a fantasy pen pal... that's why you just ask them to meet you. If they can't that date/time, you can ask a second time if you think their worth it, but if they decline and don't make an alternative suggestion, just move on. You can exchange a few messages if it matters to them, but if she lives near you, you need to keep asking out other ladies in the meantime.

It's either a simple short meetup for a coffee, sat/sun lunch, or (more so for second dates) it's about the activity you're doing together: you're both going together to event you think they'd be interested in (like a play, bowling, painting date, live jazz, walk in the park, etc, if their profile says they enjoy.)

You're a fun, funny, decent, nice-looking guy. There's lots of women who'd be interested in you. But it's a numbers game. You don't know which 5 of the 10 ladies you ask to meet you are going to be the 5 that say yes, or the 2-3 that want a second date, or that you want a second date with. So, you have to ask the 10. And repeat. It's just the logistical reality, there's no point in being cross about it.
Mr Sculpt... Listen. Please. I sent them a message expressing an interest in getting to know them. There wasn't even a "no". Some of the women on these sites even have in their profiles that will only respond to people they're interested in. Why are they obligated to respond otherwise? This is their thinking. This is what I encountered probably hundreds of times.

If you had success, that's great. But, I tried too many times to keep trying.

Thanks for the kind words.
 

TabinRivCA

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Mr Sculpt... Listen. Please. I sent them a message expressing an interest in getting to know them. There wasn't even a "no". Some of the women on these sites even have in their profiles that will only respond to people they're interested in. Why are they obligated to respond otherwise? This is their thinking. This is what I encountered probably hundreds of times.

If you had success, that's great. But, I tried too many times to keep trying.

Thanks for the kind words.
If I remember right you like Filipinas/Asian gals? There is a Filipino Forum here and 'she' might be on it😍 lol.
 

tourist

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I will say this....my geographical location is Earth. I am unwilling to relocate.
I wanna relocate to heaven one day. In my life I have had no trouble relocating as the need arose. My perception is that if you are not willing to relocate you will be left behind and God will appoint another to take your place.
 

tourist

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It sure is, i've tried dating websites in the past and it seems all the nice girls and women are happily married, and all that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
Strange though, that there are happily married women that frequent dating sites. Some divorced guys are airheads too, who haven't a clue about what it takes to establish a successful relationship that may lead to marriage.
 

tourist

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Do they let users sort by criteria-- exclude divorcees, for example? I would imagine the girls don't click the 'yes' button when asked if they are airheads.
If they are airheads they probably cannot even find the 'yes' button.
 

MsMediator

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It sure is, i've tried dating websites in the past and it seems all the nice girls and women are happily married, and all that's left for us single blokes are divorced airheads..;)
A lot of people remain married...doesn't mean they are happily married or even they are nice people. Sometimes they are bad or dislikeable people but suit eachother.