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Why Are So Many Christians Still Single?
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I've seen videos of young women (college students) on the street being asked how much a man has to make in order to date her and they say at least 6 figures ($100,000 a year). Some say $1 million.
Here's an example..
I've seen videos of young women (college students) on the street being asked how much a man has to make in order to date her and they say at least 6 figures ($100,000 a year). Some say $1 million.
Here's an example..
Do they have their own careers to contribute to the marriage? If they choose to be at home, maybe that's why they are hoping to marry someone with a decent salary or business income.
But they can also make money at home too, like through Etsy. If they have the acumen and discipline and focus, they can make their at home business successful.
Does the video ask what money those women can bring into the marriage too?
Granted, no woman should marry a grown child....and with the way these women behave...no man should want to marry a grown lil girl either. Because it's not about playing house....I've seen videos of young women (college students) on the street being asked how much a man has to make in order to date her and they say at least 6 figures ($100,000 a year). Some say $1 million.
Here's an example..
It's about working and giving of yourself to another person.....one who respects such offerings. .
The women in the video....i got a cousin just like them and currently her world is falling apart. Her husband found someone prettier. He has lost his pilots license and his job. Husband, house, income, and etc....all gone. I literally cant help her while she tries desperately to restore what is lost. She is furious with the world....but the guy just wants a break away from her and her nonsense. Three kids along for the ride too.
Because prioritizing income or anything over heart and attitude conditions.....instant disaster.
What do these women bring to the table? Careers? Money? Skills? Contacts?
It's that whole "I deserve better" thought that makes those women actually worthless for marriage. They are an expensive divorce waiting to happen at the most inopportune time in the future in the most painful manner possible.
Who wants that?
If they plan on being stay-at-home wives/moms, then they do need someone making a lot of money, but only the top 10% of men 30 and younger make $100k or more.Do they have their own careers to contribute to the marriage? If they choose to be at home, maybe that's why they are hoping to marry someone with a decent salary or business income.
But they can also make money at home too, like through Etsy. If they have the acumen and discipline and focus, they can make their at home business successful.
Does the video ask what money those women can bring into the marriage too?
Johnny has this thing about single people being inherently selfish, and he keeps preaching about how single people should pair off and make babies for the good of all mankind. If you call him out on this he will invariably backpedal, but only for a moment. Soon he will be back at it.
Problem is, even if he is right about single people being selfish, preaching at them won't work BECAUSE SELFISH PEOPLE DON'T CARE. And if he is wrong then of course it won't work because he is treating the wrong problem.
But it still feeds his self righteousness and pride to have somebody to berate, so he will keep doing this until he dies.
I honestly don't think they need that much money. It doesn't take that much time to check what is on sale at the supermarket for that week. Or any other store for that matter Also if you make some essentials and things like clothes yourself, it's a lot cheaper.
It's a shame that we are no longer taught full home economics. I know of a couple who has a successful business on Etsy because of all the homemade things they crafted and sold in their store. Really beautiful and useful stuff.
I agree, I don't like where this thread is going because I see a lot of judgement and generalization that I think Christ would be ashamed to see in us.I honestly don't think they need that much money. It doesn't take that much time to check what is on sale at the supermarket for that week. Or any other store for that matter Also if you make some essentials and things like clothes yourself, it's a lot cheaper.
It's a shame that we are no longer taught full home economics. I know of a couple who has a successful business on Etsy because of all the homemade things they crafted and sold in their store. Really beautiful and useful stuff.
However this is such a great point regardless - being frugal and self-sufficient are important skills whether we are single, married or looking for a partner. Wise words sister, thank you for providing some realism and Christian advice
The reason people are not married, is because they are not desperate for marriage.
They are pretty happy with their current state.
So they pick and choose and can't make a decision.
They are pretty happy with their current state.
So they pick and choose and can't make a decision.
Especially for Christian singles, we don't do the secular sleep around thing, just casual friendship until serious decision.
The casual pure friendship helps our head to be clear, but probably over analyzing
This made me spit out my tea xD yeah having a clear head definitely helps in general decision making and I think the sanctity of that particular act creates a healthy disconnect from the Flesh that we all can always use, but especially single people.Especially for Christian singles, we don't do the secular sleep around thing, just casual friendship until serious decision.
The casual pure friendship helps our head to be clear, but probably over analyzing
I do for sure notice at least anecdotally that my non-Christian friends who are asexual or simply don't engage in more casual relationships are also "happier" and more stable. So we/they don't hop into (and then out of) relationships as quickly.
Good points but to be honest, successful men making $100k+ are not looking to marry someone who wants them for their money.I honestly don't think they need that much money. It doesn't take that much time to check what is on sale at the supermarket for that week. Or any other store for that matter Also if you make some essentials and things like clothes yourself, it's a lot cheaper.
It's a shame that we are no longer taught full home economics. I know of a couple who has a successful business on Etsy because of all the homemade things they crafted and sold in their store. Really beautiful and useful stuff.
Agree.
Single people should be self sufficient, not to think entering into marriage as a free loader.
Every one should work, when people have kids, taking care of kids is work too.
I would prefer to be single than to be married to a man who does not follow God’s Way. He says he believes in Jesus and goes to church but his words and actions in our marriage do not match.
I know this is a Singles Chat but I wanted to say that, one day, I hope to be single and I know that I want a Godly man. I think a good Christian is hard to find. But, CC has nice people and that has been helpful.
I separated from my husband last month for 1 month to find God and get closer to Him. Unfortunately, the church I was going to had members in it who were not Godly in their hearts. They were fake. I have found a smaller church recently and the members seem friendly.
I’m not in a position to leave my husband for his ways or words, but I know that God will bless me for the pain I am enduring right now.
I only wanted to share here. Because in my heart, I would prefer to be single than be married to a man I cannot trust.
I know this is a Singles Chat but I wanted to say that, one day, I hope to be single and I know that I want a Godly man. I think a good Christian is hard to find. But, CC has nice people and that has been helpful.
I separated from my husband last month for 1 month to find God and get closer to Him. Unfortunately, the church I was going to had members in it who were not Godly in their hearts. They were fake. I have found a smaller church recently and the members seem friendly.
I’m not in a position to leave my husband for his ways or words, but I know that God will bless me for the pain I am enduring right now.
I only wanted to share here. Because in my heart, I would prefer to be single than be married to a man I cannot trust.
No church is perfect.
No man is perfect.
We should not lift up any human on a pedestal to worship.
No matter in a marriage or single, Jesus alone is our joy, happiness.
May you find peace and joy in Jesus, then you will appreciate God s blessings in life.
I am not looking for perfect.
I am looking for empathy, maturity, safety, trust.
I would prefer the same thing. I don't mean to sound depressing. But that's just how it is.
Marriage was instituted by God at the beginning of time, when the world was perfect, and it's something that's supposed to bless you. But then mankind sinned, and everything was distorted. That includes marriage. And even marriages between Christians, sadly.
People have the freedom to marry, but they also have the freedom to make bad and selfish decisions that hurt their partner. They can make solemn vows to be faithful, but they can also choose to go back on their word, as if those vows are suddenly meaningless.
It's not right. It's sad. And it should break your heart, if you're a genuine believer.