The more and more we die to the flesh, the less and less our ego is. It is our flesh that makes us want to seek position and recognition instead of being content in what God wants for his Church, that I believe is relational and not instituitional. If we could all get more of a revelation that it is a relational body instead of an institution then it would remove so much misunderstandings and striving to want to be something. If the word says a woman cannot preach speak, then, so be it. God is God and what he says goes as he is the one who setus up the headship as Christ being the head of man and the man the head of the woman. This is an example of the way that Christ has intended also for his assemblying. Women are to be obedient to their "Own" husbands. We are not in submission to any other man other than our husbands, but, in the assembling when we are with our husbands, we know that the authority of God brings it over into the gathered worshipping of the saints. That is why a woman can prosphesy in an assemblying because she is in true submission to her husband and his covering of her to protect her, he gives permission to her to prophesy. That is why a woman to speak "uncovered" is a shame for a woman to speak without a covering on her head. If a woman truly is gifted from God in prophesy and a word of wisdom and a word of knowledge, tongues etc, any of the speaking gifts, God will open the door for her to minister in that gift. This is how the body of Christ keeps herisies out. That is why women are to be keepers of the home, SO THE WORD OF GOD WILL NOT BE BLASPHEMED. We women have to realize that we are the weaker vessel. We are equal as a man in the eyes of God in the spirit, but, in our fleshly rhelm until Christ comes to be glorified in his saints, it should not be a burden to fulfill how God has made us. If we are struggling and angry and testy at the commandments of God, then we should examine ourselves and our motives of why we want to speak out at a church. Is is for recognition of man or to please man? If we are there to please God, then God will use us as he sees fit. We are the clay and he is the potter.