Looking for a traditional girl..

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seoulsearch;2118339We've talked about the viewpoint of wanting someone docile said:
I cannot adequately express how much I love you right now! You so nailed it!
 
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Mitspa

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lol ... you ladies are amazing!

I would say in my walk and in my desire to keep my body pure before the Lord (about 12 years now), it has been the gals, who have been more aggressive in this area and seems to be ruled by their physical desires... :eek:

Yep... I said it!
 
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lol ... you ladies are amazing!

I would say in my walk and in my desire to keep my body pure before the Lord (about 12 years now), it has been the gals, who have been more aggressive in this area and seems to be ruled by their physical desires... :eek:

Yep... I said it!
Yes, but you're saying this because you're not trying to date men.
 
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Rosesrock

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lol ... you ladies are amazing!

I would say in my walk and in my desire to keep my body pure before the Lord (about 12 years now), it has been the gals, who have been more aggressive in this area and seems to be ruled by their physical desires... :eek:

Yep... I said it!
Yes, but you're saying this because you're not trying to date men.
#1 bahahaha

#2 satan knows our weaknesses and uses them against us
 
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Mitspa

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Yes, but you're saying this because you're not trying to date men.
What??? lol maybe your trying to date the wrong kind of men? Look for a more "traditional" kind of man :)
 

seoulsearch

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#86
lol ... you ladies are amazing!

I would say in my walk and in my desire to keep my body pure before the Lord (about 12 years now), it has been the gals, who have been more aggressive in this area and seems to be ruled by their physical desires... :eek:

Yep... I said it!
I understand that some women can be aggressive and I'm certainly not saying it can't happen.

However, the next time I go on a date and the guy blatantly hints at or just suggests sex, I know where to send him after saying, "And to think. Some Christian ladies and I just had a discussion with a really good Christian guy who says men don't just ask for sex anymore. He's traditional. He doesn't think that kind of stuff happens anymore. However, you can be the one who proves him wrong! Here, give him a call and tell proposition him exactly the way you just did to me."

(Feel free to leave your contact info, Mitspa. :))

I will say one thing. Men who are straightforward and obnoxious make me appreciate sweet, polite, and yes, controlled men 110% more.
 
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What??? lol maybe your trying to date the wrong kind of men? Look for a more "traditional" kind of man :)
Am I trying to date the wrong kind of man anymore than you are trying to date the wrong kind of woman?

Or are both men and women subject to modern acculturation regarding sexual mores?
 

Lynx

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*Lynx shifts on his perch

 
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Post 79 "...And what they're actually saying is that what they really want is... a nice, quiet, obedient, sex object. "

Clearly said! And it seems applying to several types of skin colors (human race is one)
 
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I agree with you that many have used the truth of God to abuse others and take advantage...we see this spirit of error at work all around us and even on this forum as it relates to every good truth and plan of God. It seems that the balance of this issue has gone way past trying to stop the abuse of biblical authority into a rebellious type attitude towards men and Gods family order. Thanks for your kind words and in truth, I know what I believe and have tried to present on this thread comes from a real love for God and is not motivated by the pride of the flesh(ego of a man). Thanks kaylagrl :) your cool with me
You're cool with me too. I cant speak for what others think,just my opinion. It just sounded like people were beginning to come down a little too hard on you.You're not the type of man I am talking about. Im saying we need to be careful we teach all things in balance. Its all good.lol
 
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Roseanna

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It appears that you opened a can of worms with your comment on "traditional" I think people have different gifts, if a guy makes all the decisions, even when it is not his gift, that could lead to disaster. For example; a women could have the gift of making better financial choices and budgeting decisions, yet if I man takes that away from her even if he has no idea how to budget, then he has failed his family into being bankrupt. (and vise versa) We all have gifts that is why marriage is a partnership. (I had to take over the finances in my marriage, for my X-husband constantly made poor financial discussion, after he left he went bankrupt again)
 
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Mitspa

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It appears that you opened a can of worms with your comment on "traditional" I think people have different gifts, if a guy makes all the decisions, even when it is not his gift, that could lead to disaster. For example; a women could have the gift of making better financial choices and budgeting decisions, yet if I man takes that away from her even if he has no idea how to budget, then he has failed his family into being bankrupt. (and vise versa) We all have gifts that is why marriage is a partnership. (I had to take over the finances in my marriage, for my X-husband constantly made poor financial discussion, after he left he went bankrupt again)
Yea I knew I was going to draw some heat...;) And my position is based on a man who is "godly" and in the spiritual condition to be the head of his home.
 
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Roseanna

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Hi Mitspa, I would most certainly welcome a spiritual leader in my home. It is difficult when the faith is not shared. Honestly if a man treated a woman the way the bible describes that he should, she would want to please him.
 
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Mitspa

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Hi Mitspa, I would most certainly welcome a spiritual leader in my home. It is difficult when the faith is not shared. Honestly if a man treated a woman the way the bible describes that he should, she would want to please him.
I understand what your saying...I guess we need to be careful to really know who we are making a commitment to...right?
 
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Yea I knew I was going to draw some heat...;) And my position is based on a man who is "godly" and in the spiritual condition to be the head of his home.
Yes, but even a godly man will not be an expert in everything. It can be very useful to be humble enough to defer to the expertise of someone else in certain areas (a couple of women mentioned finances).
 
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Kigen

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Ouch, just Ouch :D.. You know, it aint healthy to be soooo real at times.Me, for my own sake i'll just assume you are being poetic lol.
 
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Mitspa

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Yes, but even a godly man will not be an expert in everything. It can be very useful to be humble enough to defer to the expertise of someone else in certain areas (a couple of women mentioned finances).
The blessing of the Lord maketh rich and adds no sorrow...I have and believe the blessing of the Lord, not sure I would ever be willing to replace that with worldly wisdom, but if someone had greater revelation of Gods blessings. it would be silly not to honor that...right? :)
 

Oncefallen

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Is it offensive for a guy to desire a more traditional type girl, or to admire those qualities that we have seen in the woman who are from a previous generation?
lol.... no just those who believe what the bible says about the relationship between a husband and a wife :p
It never ceases to amaze me all the places a thread like this can go.

To answer the OP: No, it is not offensive for a man to desire a "traditional" biblical woman for a wife and my wife would agree with me.

Is either one of us perfect in our biblical roles? Absolutely not.

I have a long way to go in perfecting that whole loving her as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her part. Do I lord over her and dictate her every decision to her? No, since that would not follow Christ's lead.

Christ's example was that of a servant leader and those men who try to misuse scripture to support their totalitarianism does the concept of biblical marriage a great disservice.
 

Shannon50

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There is nothing wrong with you fantasizing about the types of women you believed lived in the past--- meaning it's probably normal--- women do it too--- but just realize that no woman will fit your ideal because even Christian women are human and aren't perfect---

--in any woman if you are intelligent enough to see their worth and value them then they will grow in beauty (inwardly and outwardly) :D So happy hunting!
 
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