It appears that you opened a can of worms with your comment on "traditional" I think people have different gifts, if a guy makes all the decisions, even when it is not his gift, that could lead to disaster. For example; a women could have the gift of making better financial choices and budgeting decisions, yet if I man takes that away from her even if he has no idea how to budget, then he has failed his family into being bankrupt. (and vise versa) We all have gifts that is why marriage is a partnership. (I had to take over the finances in my marriage, for my X-husband constantly made poor financial discussion, after he left he went bankrupt again)