so cant i just go for the physically attractive christian girl?
Look, I can't make you do anything. I really can't. I'm just saying what I'm saying more so for our own good as a Christian community. I can tell you its better to emphasis a Godly Character and its true. You can take that with you and work on that because I know its tough to overlook a gorgoues woman in general but think long term and I think you can see then benefits in that.
Like I responded to someone earlier... You would like a woman that is Godly. You would like a woman that reads scripture and has both wisdom and instruction on her lips. You would like a woman who wakes up in the middle of the night to make sure the kids are okay and hell even ask you if you want a cup of tea. You would like a woman who looks after the household needs, diligently. You would like a woman you can trust when your not at home and at work, not to commit adultary, not to spend the family's money wastefully.. etc etc... This is in the spirit of the Proverbs 31 woman. If you've never read it, here it is, all for your benefit.
Proverbs 31:10-31 NIV - Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character - Bible Gateway
And nowhere does it mention that she is a physically beautiful woman. Actually, the passage practically ends by giveing a warning about beauty instead...
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30 [/SUP]Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
So, can you look for an attractive looking Christian woman. Yes you can. But, it would be better for if you to have the priority of going for the woman with Godly character... whether she's physically attractive or not. Character being the dominant thing to look for.
Personally, I don't see a middle ground. When we bring up physical beauty to a man... I think its reasonable to say that most men will go one way or another generally, high emphasis on looks or resistant to it so you won't be sucked into its possible trap. I'm speaking generally, most men are better off closing thier eyes because its a tough obstacle to go around. I've tried and I can't do it myself. If you can look at a woman and not put her looks as one of the top things. Awesome, good for you.. your one of the rare. But, when all is said and done... and we're RRReally on the same page on putting. You'd end up next to me and choose a woman with a Godly character instead................ rrrrrright?
On the other hand, it really really.... really isn't easy. And in that I understand where your coming from, I feel what you feel. The very least I can expect is that you agree in thoery... the practice part. I know that can be tough and maybe it'll take time in God's presence to change us to be able to practice it better. I know I can't fully practice, 100% of the time it. But, I know the thoery is scripture supported and good.
Bonus point: Beauty can imprison you into a slave like state if you don't watch yourself.... woman's beauty would be the master and you would be her slave. I know I've felt like a tool before.