How Much Is Appropriate to Spend On an Engagement Ring?

[dauson]

i never really liked the super extravagant engagement rings. i think i would be too nervous to wear one lol

i like simple. heck, it doesn't even need to have a diamond. a different stone would be nice cuz... i'm awesome like that

ah but i will say this. i prefer white gold or silver.

I need white guy 30 plus

 

[CatHerder]

really, nothing fancy....just some onion rings would be fine. I would rather she spend her money on clothes for me.

 

[ArtsieSteph]

Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnope, that's not what the engagement ring was intended for.

The original point of the engagement ring was virginity insurance, and nothing to do with being treated like a princess. (The having a day to be treated like a princess is a relatively recent development, fostered into hyperdrive by this generation's current streak of narcissism.)

This is actually the original point of the engagement ring:

--"We've been courting for what seems like ages! When can we have sex?"
--"When you marry me, of course."
--"Ummm...If I promise to marry you, can we finally have sex?"
--"No. How will I know you won't just take my virginity and toss me aside?"
--"Uhhhh...why don't I give you an outrageously expensive token to wear? It will symbolize our betrothment, and if I don't follow through and marry you, you get to keep it as payment for your virginity."
--"Deal."

I wish I was joking. I am not.

Still make you feel like a princess for a day now that you know how the tradition started? ^_^

Yup I heard that's how it started. I think the tradition has morphed since the notion of the dowry and inheritance of property was thrown out the window (you know to an extent). Now adays it's just a token to show people that you are indeed promised to be married. Though I think the same rule still applies: if the guy steps out on ya after buying it then you still get to keep it.

 

[Hellooo]

I've seen some really pretty, unique-looking vintage rings at antique stores. I'd be thrilled with something like that, but I'd be happy with anything where a lot of thought went into it.

 

[ServantStrike]

No one even raised an eyebrow when I said that if I wore a band, I'd need to find a machine shop?

Really, no one? Darn.

 

[ArtsieSteph]

No one even raised an eyebrow when I said that if I wore a band, I'd need to find a machine shop?

Really, no one? Darn.

Honestly I would be totally fine with a copper spring if it fit and it was from my fiance

 

[seoulsearch]

No one even raised an eyebrow when I said that if I wore a band, I'd need to find a machine shop?

Really, no one? Darn.

Oh, I raised my eye at you, Servant Strike...

But it was for reasons completely unrelated to copper.

 

[Oncefallen]

Though I think the same rule still applies: if the guy steps out on ya after buying it then you still get to keep it.

The courts agree with you on this.....yes people have gone to court over an engagement ring.

Legal precedent say if he bails, she can keep the ring and if she bails she is obligated to return it.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

The courts agree with you on this.....yes people have gone to court over an engagement ring.

Legal precedent say if he bails, she can keep the ring and if she bails she is obligated to return it.

See, no one ever went to court over a $300 ring.

(Although I must admit that I chose the $3000+ poll option in retaliation because SOME cheeky stinker picked the most insulting choice possible as his answer.)

 

[cinder]

Yup I heard that's how it started. I think the tradition has morphed since the notion of the dowry and inheritance of property was thrown out the window (you know to an extent). Now adays it's just a token to show people that you are indeed promised to be married. Though I think the same rule still applies: if the guy steps out on ya after buying it then you still get to keep it.

The courts agree with you on this.....yes people have gone to court over an engagement ring.

Legal precedent say if he bails, she can keep the ring and if she bails she is obligated to return it.

New get rich quick scheme:

Be all nice and sweet to get the guy to propose with a nice expensive ring. Then go cray cray on him to drive him away before the wedding so I can keep the expensive ring. Sell ring to someone else and pocket the cash. Actually if there's another girl around who wants in on this scheme we can probably keep trading the same ring or two back and forth making our new guys pay insane amounts of money for it each time, because it's the one we absolutely love and have to have.

Being a decent person can really limit your opportunities in life , guess that's another idea relegated to only be expressed in my supervillainess fantasies. On the other hand, not having to always be on alert because I'm afraid of what vengeful exes might do also has its perks.

 

[jeremyPJ]

So, how much is a box of Cracker Jacks now? lol

I really don't know how much to spend, it's been 20 years since I've looked at buying one. I'm glad to see this question posted, I 'll learn something...(smiles...)

 

[garet82]

hmm what should i said ???

 

[NarrowRoadDisciple]

So, how much is a box of Cracker Jacks now? lol

I really don't know how much to spend, it's been 20 years since I've looked at buying one. I'm glad to see this question posted, I 'll learn something...(smiles...)

Except Cracker Jacks don't provide rings as prizes anymore... just some paper thing.

 

[ServantStrike]

Oh, I raised my eye at you, Servant Strike...

But it was for reasons completely unrelated to copper.

That's good, because I said I wanted one made out Monel!

Although Monel is tough as nails - I'd better never let my finger swell up or it's not coming off without power tools. That's the risk you take when the alloy you want has a Rockwell hardness of 65.

 

[seoulsearch]

That's good, because I said I wanted one made out Monel!

Although Monel is tough as nails - I'd better never let my finger swell up or it's not coming off without power tools. That's the risk you take when the alloy you want has a Rockwell hardness of 65.

I'm thinking... If anyone ever needs a chastity belt, that would definitely be the stuff to make it out of.

 

[ServantStrike]

I'm thinking... If anyone ever needs a chastity belt, that would definitely be the stuff to make it out of.

It's highly corrosion reisistant too. At work, it's used on the hydrofluoric acid alkylization unit. .

I feel like that's important, because if the thing got stuck.. one might pee themselves waiting to get it off.

 

[seoulsearch]

It's highly corrosion reisistant too. At work, it's used on the hydrofluoric acid alkylization unit. .

I feel like that's important, because if the thing got stuck.. one might pee themselves waiting to get it off.

Not only does he value endurance and quality, he's also into fitness, reads his Bible, and is a practical thinker.

He's also obviously highly intelligent...

Ladies, the bidding for Mr. Strike will now begin!!!

All it's going to take is... one indestructible ring that will apparently survive even a nuclear holocaust!!! (Poor Gollum ain't seen nothin' like this one!!!)

"Our Love is Forever... And The Ring, Even Beyond That."

 

[violakat]

I don't think that the cost of a ring should be so high that it causes the couple to be in debt for years. All an engagement ring is just a sentimental symbol of a promise to be married to each other. You don't need one to keep the promise. So, if you ca't afford one, don't get a ring, or see if you could use a passed down ring heirloom if you really must have a ring. If you can afford it, and you want one, then get it.

 

[ServantStrike]

Not only does he value endurance and quality, he's also into fitness, reads his Bible, and is a practical thinker.

He's also obviously highly intelligent...

Ladies, the bidding for Mr. Strike will now begin!!!

All it's going to take is... one indestructible ring that will apparently survive even a nuclear holocaust!!! (Poor Gollum ain't seen nothin' like this one!!!)

"Our Love is Forever... And The Ring, Even Beyond That."

Yeah but... it's not really fire fighting if you're the one who started the fire.

No, I don't have any nuclear warheads handy, so don't get any ideas.

 

[Roh_Chris]

In India, some dads gift their daughters diamond rings as birthday gifts. If I were to date a girl who already had a diamond ring, I may have to gift her something costlier - in which case it would be upwards of USD 2,000.

I wouldn't hesitate to spend because I am sure she will be worth more than that. I could do anything, as long as it is not as horrifying as what David had to do.