I am only looking for girls that are virgins as potential for someone to marry.

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seoulsearch

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freakingout said:
I'm still a virgin, and I willing to date a girl that struggling with porn as long as she's trying to fix things too.
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Totally respectable, Freaking.

But... just curious... May I ask, what did you want to communicate in your thread? I mean, was the purpose simply to state that you wanted a virgin? Or was there something more?

Because following your statement by then asking, "Do you have a problem with that?" is simply begging for a fight.
 
AbigailZeke

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seoulsearch said:
Totally respectable, Freaking.

But... just curious... May I ask, what did you want to communicate in your thread? I mean, was the purpose simply to state that you wanted a virgin? Or was there something more?

Because following your statement by then asking, "Do you have a problem with that?" is simply begging for a fight.
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Exactly. You know, freaking, I seriously thought you were Jack, a troll. Maybe make things clearer.
 
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freakingout said:
This topic was a lot more do with the that even though I want to get porn out of my life. I'm seen as a reject that no girl would want. I really do prefer a virgin, but if I really do fall in with a girl. I'll be a lot more willing to accept it.
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You're not a reject. If you are a Christian with Gods help you can find forgiveness and move on. If you're not a Christian,thats ground one and you have a whole different issue. But it sounds very hypocritical to say you want a virgin when you are dealing with the struggle you are having. If you cannot control yourself alone how do you think you could control yourself with a woman? Its easier to fall than you think. And I think young people fail because the church doesn't talk about sex the way they should and the temptations,how satan will use your weakness against you. You need to get your life together before you move forward. And remember if you want mercy you should also show mercy.
 
Willie-T

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freakingout said:
That was most respectful way I could think to word it.
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Then learn! I probably talk about sex more than anyone else on here, but I have never found I couldn't express absolutely anything in a way that wasn't deliberately crude like that.
 
Desdichado

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Willie-T said:
Then learn! I probably talk about sex more than anyone else on here, but I have never found I couldn't express absolutely anything in a way that wasn't deliberately crude like that.
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Willie-T

Our dictionary of euphemisms. :p
 
blue_ladybug

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Ugly said:
10 year age difference is creepy? My parents had a 14 year age difference. Two mindless comments I've see. From you in a row from you Blue. Keep up the good work.
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The fact that MOST 18-year olds might want someone ALOT closer to their age comes into play here. Most teens don't want someone old enough to be their uncle. :/ And from someone who added 10 years to his age on his profile, YES, to ME that IS creepy. And it IS only my opinion. I don't care if your parents had a 100-year difference, no young teen child wants a decade-plus older boyfriend.
 
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blue_ladybug said:
The fact that MOST 18-year olds might want someone ALOT closer to their age comes into play here. Most teens don't want someone old enough to be their uncle. :/ And from someone who added 10 years to his age on his profile, YES, to ME that IS creepy. And it IS only my opinion. I don't care if your parents had a 100-year difference, no young teen child wants a decade-plus older boyfriend.
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Depends on what the 10 years+ guy looks and acts like.

I mean somebody had to go there. I might as well be "that guy"
 
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kaylagrl

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freakingout said:
I'm still a virgin, and I willing to date a girl that struggling with porn as long as she's trying to fix things too.
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But her struggle may not be the same as your struggle. Both are failings with lust. How can you demand purity that you dont have? I cant too get too far here,its appropriate for the men here to get where Im headed. Willie....
 
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seoulsearch said:
Totally respectable, Freaking.

But... just curious... May I ask, what did you want to communicate in your thread? I mean, was the purpose simply to state that you wanted a virgin? Or was there something more?

Because following your statement by then asking, "Do you have a problem with that?" is simply begging for a fight.
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Mostly because of the way I was being treating on the porn topic.
 
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Apparently nothing. People usually get pretty mad when I mention that I want a virgin.
 
seoulsearch

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freakingout said:
Apparently nothing. People usually get pretty mad when I mention that I want a virgin.
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Ok. So let's say that there are people here who can accept that you want a virgin.

That, and your reasons for it, are between you, God, and the person in your future.

Where do we go from here? How can we help or pray for you, besides encouraging you in your struggle to overcome porn?

(Which, by the way, is an awesome decision.)

Are there any other things we can help you with or pray for?

I am often doing many mindless tasks at my job--I would be happy to pray for you if you give us some suggestions.
 
blue_ladybug

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freakingout said:
Mostly because of the way I was being treating on the porn topic.
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You just don't want to have to accept that you need to get your stuff worked out BEFORE you get into a relationship. Very few women will be willing to take on the aftermath of your addiction, especially if they have an addiction of their own. And THEY probably wouldn't want/expect YOU to take on the aftermath of THEIR addiction, either. Everyone on the porn thread has told you that, and you don't want to hear it.
 
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freakingout said:
Apparently nothing. People usually get pretty mad when I mention that I want a virgin.
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People are just expressing their point of view. If I said anything to upset you I'm sorry. There's nothing wrong to wanting your future wife to be a virgin, just realize that the older you are the least likelihood that will happen.
 
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blue_ladybug said:
The fact that MOST 18-year olds might want someone ALOT closer to their age comes into play here. Most teens don't want someone old enough to be their uncle. :/ And from someone who added 10 years to his age on his profile, YES, to ME that IS creepy. And it IS only my opinion. I don't care if your parents had a 100-year difference, no young teen child wants a decade-plus older boyfriend.
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Umm.. I have a sister that's eight years older. I have a nephew 18 years younger. Someone ten years older is a lot more likely to be a sibling rather than an aunt or uncle.
 
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Freak you mentioned that girls/women didn't like you. Do you have any idea of why that is? Maybe there is something you can do to fix that. I think once you fix it, you won't be so hung up on finding a virgin. And even if you still want a virgin, it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's just not likely to happen either. Keep the virgin preference thing to yourself. Most people (as you have already seen) will get mad, offended, or just surprised.
 
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freakingout said:
Apparently nothing. People usually get pretty mad when I mention that I want a virgin.
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People are wanting you to see that you are being hypocritical. You are dealing with lust and sex but you are looking for someone who hasn't failed sexually. That doesn't make sense.
 
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kaylagrl said:
People are wanting you to see that you are being hypocritical. You are dealing with lust and sex but you are looking for someone who hasn't failed sexually. That doesn't make sense.
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That was my point on the other side I was trying to make.
 
Desdichado

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MollyConnor said:
Freak you mentioned that girls/women didn't like you. Do you have any idea of why that is? Maybe there is something you can do to fix that. I think once you fix it, you won't be so hung up on finding a virgin. And even if you still want a virgin, it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's just not likely to happen either. Keep the virgin preference thing to yourself. Most people (as you have already seen) will get mad, offended, or just surprised.
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That is something we've forgotten about these days, the value of keeping things to ourselves.
 
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Wow. I was gone a few days, and look at all the fun I missed out on!
 
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