Well, the Bible tells us that the man is the spiritual leader; and the woman is subject to the man's interpretation of God's word. What this tells me is that the if the woman and man have different opinions, about how to do the word, she should yield to his. God will not hold her accountable if it's slightly off.
That said: my second wife and I decided things together. Very seldom was any yielding necessary. Because I loved her very much and her opinions meant a great deal to me. I don't think wives can be subjective unless real love were involved. A woman has a hard time following someone self-centered and unable to really love. By real love, I mean the lay your life down type of love. If I were a woman, I would trust a man to give his life to spare me. Such a loved wife would give her best input and have no trouble accepting her God given role. She would be truly, a help meet.
The message [that should be] derived from the proof texts, then, is , "always go with the man's interpretation over the woman's, and you cannot lose."
In the book of Judges, chapter 13, there is the account of Manoah and his barren wife, who remains unnamed throughout. The Angel of the LORD appears to her and announces the conception and birth of their son, Samson. But, when she tells her husband of it, he entreats the LORD to send the man to them again. God obliges him and appears again to the woman and this time she runs to tell Manoah, who follows her back to see for himself and totally misses that it is indeed the angel of the LORD and asks Him his name. To which He replied, "Why do you ask my name, seeing that it is wonderful?" [Judges 13:18].
Then, after Manoah does finally realize Who it was that had been speaking, he think that they will surely die for having seen God and his wife had to assure him to the contrary. However, all the way to the end, she remains referred to in such as 'the woman' while Manoah is given honorable mention in Judge's 16:31 as 'Manoah his (Samson's) father'. I do not think that she resents that to the point of protesting that she should have been honored above him, though she had been more faithful, by that particular account, to hear the word of the LORD.
It would not have pleased her, and indeed would have detracted from her character as a good wife, to have publicly humiliate him. Afterall, it was both of them that fell on their faces to the ground when He ascended into the flame of the altar [Judges 13:20].