Divorce?
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Well....I am just so sorry to have to disagree with you lol but GOD SAID MULTIPLY !!!!
So.....if ol boy doesnt know lack of multiplication causes division then he isn't Christian and doesn't understand Gods mathematics....he must have failed it.....not enough light when studying in the CLOSET!
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No consumation No Marriage Even God spread his skirt over Israel and consumated the harlot.....and then he divorced her.....which most here seem to forget.....
.......But.....I don't think it should matter whether you get stuck with a Harlot or a CLOSET 🐵 MONKEY......
If they won't consumate and procreate.....you got a dud that needs to go to the CURB!
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I have read through some of this thread. It scares me that a person can find any advice they want about a particular situation on here.
I was married for over 14 years till the Lord took her home. They were not easy years and I entertained the thought of divorce more than once. But I did take a vow for better or worse.
My marriage had some very difficult times. Some from her, some from me and the mix of both our problems. She started drinking after our third child was born. She was in rehab twice and in the hospital twice for self inflicted issues. I had my own problems to face and expose and to deal with, and still am. We were both in counseling separately for our own issues but would meet together also. I still go to counseling as I need to and talk with strong Christian friends. ( But in retrospect, those difficult years have been some of the best life lessons I ever could have had. They have helped me become a better person, by God's grace. The suffering in our lives is not pointless. It serves a purpose. God can use anything for good.
Keep praying and trusting God. This is a moment by moment decision/process but persevere. Tell God your heart and be open to him. Stay in his word. You cannot change your husband. That is between him and God. You can only change you. It's a frustrating truth. I could not change my wife and it took me years to realize that and then I had to let her go. That didn't mean I left her or that I didn't love her anymore but I had to go and stop trying to change her and work on me. It was hard. It was frustrating. It was scary.
God does answer prayers. Many times in ways we do not want or maybe what we want but in an unexpected way. I prayed for healing for my wife. He did. But not like I thought it would happen. She is pain free. I thought we would grow old together.
Anyway, here is just another person's thoughts and my advice would be to Pray, read the Bible, and seek solid biblical counseling. Ask others to pray for you both. I will also.
So take it or leave it. Just my simple thoughts.
I was married for over 14 years till the Lord took her home. They were not easy years and I entertained the thought of divorce more than once. But I did take a vow for better or worse.
My marriage had some very difficult times. Some from her, some from me and the mix of both our problems. She started drinking after our third child was born. She was in rehab twice and in the hospital twice for self inflicted issues. I had my own problems to face and expose and to deal with, and still am. We were both in counseling separately for our own issues but would meet together also. I still go to counseling as I need to and talk with strong Christian friends. ( But in retrospect, those difficult years have been some of the best life lessons I ever could have had. They have helped me become a better person, by God's grace. The suffering in our lives is not pointless. It serves a purpose. God can use anything for good.
Keep praying and trusting God. This is a moment by moment decision/process but persevere. Tell God your heart and be open to him. Stay in his word. You cannot change your husband. That is between him and God. You can only change you. It's a frustrating truth. I could not change my wife and it took me years to realize that and then I had to let her go. That didn't mean I left her or that I didn't love her anymore but I had to go and stop trying to change her and work on me. It was hard. It was frustrating. It was scary.
God does answer prayers. Many times in ways we do not want or maybe what we want but in an unexpected way. I prayed for healing for my wife. He did. But not like I thought it would happen. She is pain free. I thought we would grow old together.
Anyway, here is just another person's thoughts and my advice would be to Pray, read the Bible, and seek solid biblical counseling. Ask others to pray for you both. I will also.
So take it or leave it. Just my simple thoughts.
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I've just gone through this thread and THIS really jumped out at me! It occurs to me that you and your husband have never really been on the same page... I would just like to suggest letting your husband read this thread and see if that opens up a new line of communication. I am sympathetic, I know what it's like to marry and then suddenly find yourself living with a stranger.... It's hard, but you have to separate yourself from the problem emotionally before he will be comfortable enough to be honest. Let him read this...
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My wife and I are both 64 years old so there is not going to be any multiplying going on. Even if it were possible we would have no desire to do so. We each have an adult child from a previous marriage so we're all set in that regard. My daughter did some multiplying though, 5 kids, the youngest are twin boys 2 years old, the oldest is 18.
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I feel your pain (sadly). I have been in this rocky boat. I have tried all as well. I would not give any advice as to what you should do b/c that would be hypocritical of me. However, you are not alone. Your hurt is your hurt. It is not selfish. You have to fish through who you reply to. It s not worth the upset. Go old school write the pros and cons see which out weighs. Ask yourself why he is the way he is (not that you should except), but understanding can go a long way, it can also go no where. In looking at my husbands parents and the way they are is a template of what I don't want to be at their age. But I see where his ways come from and I am my mothers child (not a good thing). So where do we go from here, we do need to seek help, because without it, we run in circles.
I joined this site for some kind of enlightenment. There's so much going on.
Pray on it!
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Hi Missing Love,
Im new to this chatroom and forums, i believe the Lord led me to join this chats so i can share to you and others. I feel for you and understand your situation, i myself is not divorced nor separated, but currently very unhappily married. Im married for 28 years this june. Because of my husband (he is unbeliever) becoming an enemy to me and abusing me emotionally, and much more... i prayed and asked the Lord about divorce. He really hates divorce, He wants us to be forgiving, to endure. Like what He did with us, and the church. I pleaded with the Lord to take my love away from my husband so that i will not be hurt anymore, and He told me, if He will take away His love for us when we disappoint or sin or do things that does not please Him, then no one will be saved. I believe every trials or circumstances has a purpose and a reason, and one of it is to make our faith grow.
Let the Lord Jesus be your focus, seek Him and His ways, do things to please Him. And I pray, may the Lord gives you grace to do the right thing to please the Lord.
Galatians 2:20 NASB
[20] I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.
Im new to this chatroom and forums, i believe the Lord led me to join this chats so i can share to you and others. I feel for you and understand your situation, i myself is not divorced nor separated, but currently very unhappily married. Im married for 28 years this june. Because of my husband (he is unbeliever) becoming an enemy to me and abusing me emotionally, and much more... i prayed and asked the Lord about divorce. He really hates divorce, He wants us to be forgiving, to endure. Like what He did with us, and the church. I pleaded with the Lord to take my love away from my husband so that i will not be hurt anymore, and He told me, if He will take away His love for us when we disappoint or sin or do things that does not please Him, then no one will be saved. I believe every trials or circumstances has a purpose and a reason, and one of it is to make our faith grow.
Let the Lord Jesus be your focus, seek Him and His ways, do things to please Him. And I pray, may the Lord gives you grace to do the right thing to please the Lord.
Galatians 2:20 NASB
[20] I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.
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May you seek God’s Word, and trust Him. Our life here on earth is temporary. What is important is to follow Jesus and be obedient to His Word. His word is truth. We are blessed if we suffer for Him, staying unhappy in the marriage because that is what God wants because He hates divorce, is suffering for Him. God bless you.
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